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If you are looking for a new and exciting way to celebrate a birthday, wedding or any other special event then why not light up the night sky with a wish and use Wish Lanterns. Wish Lanterns, also known as Sky Lanterns, are lanterns made with rice paper and bamboo that fill up with hot air once lit and gradually rise up into the sky. Make a wish as they float away. They create a visual spectacular in the sky, especially when launched all at the same time. Another wonderful thing about the product is that Wish Lanterns are environmentally friendly as the rice paper and bamboo are biodegradable. Even the wire that holds the fuel cell to the lantern will biodegrade within a couple of months as it is so thin. Wish Lanterns make the perfect accessory to any special event, as they allow guests to take part in the launch or if they so desire they can just stand back and watch the Wish Lanterns soar off into the night sky. They have become increasingly popular for weddings in the last couple of years, especially for the end of the reception where the guests launch the lanterns off with wishes for the newlyweds.

Divorce does have some effects on social security benefits. The basics are quite simple. If you are entitled to receive social security benefits based upon your own earnings record, you will, of course, be able to collect social security after divorce based on that earnings record. However, if you were married for ten or more years, you might be able to collect social security benefits under your spouse’s record after you are divorce. There are a few qualifications that you must deal with.

The first issue to be addressed is the amount of time that you were married before the divorce. To collect social security benefits based upon your former spouse’s earnings record, you must have been married for at least ten years. If you or your spouse are considering divorce, this ten year time limit might be an important issue. For example, if you have been married for just nine years, and if having this social security benefit after divorce will help you, you might want to negotiate a one year separation before the divorce. That way, you have preserved your ability to collect social security under your soon to be ex spouse’s earnings record after the divorce. The one year separation could have some impact upon other rights that you need to address. So, it is a good idea to discuss this issue with your divorce attorney or with an accountant before finalizing a separation or divorce agreement.

You cannot collect social security under an ex spouse’s earnings record if you remarry. So, if you have carefully preserved this benefit after divorce, you might want to be very careful about remarrying. You can collect social security benefits under the next spouse’s earnings record, but the same time rule will apply. That is, you must remain married to that individual for ten years before you can collect social security under their earnings record.

Many people simply want to know how much they will collect in social security benefits. The general rule when collecting benefits under someone else’s earnings record is that you cannot collect more than fifty percent of that person’s benefit. So, if your spouse or ex spouse is going to receive a monthly benefit of $1500, you cannot collect more than $750 if you collect under their earnings record. You need to know what your own benefit will be to decide if you would be better off collecting under your own earnings record or under a spouse or former spouse’s earnings record after divorce.

The rules that pertain to collecting social security after divorce are different than the rules that pertain to collecting social security after the death of a spouse to whom you are still married. THose rules should not be confused.

You can always check with the social security administration to find out what your social security rights and benefits are. The social security administration also maintains a website that you can interact with to figure out your rights and benefits.

Jean Mahserjian has practiced family law for close to two decades and is the author of many books devoted to helping consumers understand family law, including the issues of child custody and support. To download free excerpts from her family law books, visit: Divorce Help

Flower bouquets the button hole and centre pieces will always be one of the star attractions at weddings. Flower posy/bouquets denote a blossoming maiden which evidently helps reflect her feelings and emotions. The planning of the wedding bouquet takes just as much careful thought behind getting it right for on the day as that of the wedding gown.
Whatever race/religion, bouquets will still always be seen as a tradition to be kept. The more of natures natural beauties lining church pews/aisles will send out a lingering aromatic fragrance and a vast amount of colour to brighten up your day.

What to take into consideration when choosing your wedding bouquet:

1. By choosing seasonal flowers you will save time and money, if you insist on blooms out of season then you may find they have to be shipped in from another country.
Time is important when you order and receive the flowers, you will want them fresh therefore a stronger sweet smelling scent.

2. If you have silk flowers in mind then better still this way you are guaranteed your particular favourite flower no matter the time of year so no need to put the wedding on hold.
3. Do not make the mistake of letting the bouquet outshine or cover your figure if you are of petite frame the reason being is, your posture maybe affected thus giving off the wrong image of how your wedding gown should look. If the elegant style of the gown is to stay then make sure to choose pastels instead of strong vibrant colours.
(Depending on the wedding outfit of course)

4. Make sure that your flowers still hold up for late afternoon photo shoots should your wedding service take place in the morning.
A preferred method by brides to keep the flowers fresh while not posing in front of a camera or piling on the pounds at the wedding feast, (who cares now you got your man)only joking is to have a bouquet holder close at hand. Ask the florist for advice on which flowers wilt more quickly than others, by having this information under your garter you will at least know the ones to avoid.

5. On your first visit to the flower shop don’t let the florist conjure up what they think you have in mind, they are not mind readers, It is only you at this point knows what you are looking for. Make it easy on both yourself and the florist by taking a photo of the style and design of the bouquet, another good idea is to bring along a sample piece of gown fabric so that the wedding coordinator/florist can select the correct shade of flower to compliment the wedding dress. Additional touches to Bouquets include ribbons lace beads or pearls.

6. Say it with flowers and mean it, why not choose a flower that has special meaning? Take the Stephanotis which stands for happiness in marriage, then we have the Rose denoting love and being true, another fabulous flower is the Tulip with a meaning declaring perfect love, why not have them all if your betrothed means that much to you.

7. Bouquets are becoming more personalized these days so design yours to suit your personality, everyone else is so why not you. Clusters of flowers more widely known as nose gays can vary in sophistication and will fit any personality. Beauty prevails in the flower cascading bouquet which is seen a lot at traditional weddings.

Flowers where the stems are wrapped in ribbons are called Hand-tied bouquets. It is these bouquets that bring a casual aura more often to garden ceremonies. We also have the Contemporary bouquet where flowers are arranged tastefully in a style with no geometric form but still as gorgeous as any other hand held bridal piece, normally used in sophisticated weddings.

8. If your choice is Roses, Lilies, Orchids, Tulips, Stephanotis or Daisies for your bridal bouquet then you have just picked the top flowers that have dominated many a wedding in the past and in the future to come.

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Nothing in life is more devastating than the infidelity of a
mate. When your partner breaks their vows and you discover they
have lied to you, and before the altar of whatever god you
worship, the earth moves beneath your feet. It can destroy your
faith in your partner, in marriage, and sometimes even in love.

How can you ever trust them again?

Yet we know that less than 10% of marriages involving sexual
infidelity end in divorce, while the overall rate is 50%. How do
we make sense of this?

A STORY OF TERRIBLE INFIDELITY

This is one of the worst stories I’ve heard, told by a minister.
He had been a workaholic in the early years of his marriage. His
wife accused him of not caring about her and the kids, and he
counter-accused her of not caring about him or his career, and
they argued continually.

Then one day he realized there was nothing but silence. Their
marriage had become an empty shell, except for smouldering
resentment.

“I got the message,” he said, “when I realized she wasn’t even
complaining about it any more. She had given up.”

Scared, he started to make amends. “I told her I would start
coming home at 6 for dinner every night,” he said, “and I told
her I meant it.”

“She just shrugged,” he said. “She no longer believed anything I
said.”

ANOTHER INFIDELITY

Marjorie and Josh met on the Internet and shared their divorce
war-stories. Marjorie’s husband had just walked out one day. She
hadn’t known he was unhappy. Josh had divorced because all they
did was fight. Josh and Marjorie fell in love and agreed this
marriage would be different. They would tell each other when
unhappy, ask for what they needed, and not fight. Neither would
hurt the other, and they would meet each other’s needs. They
deserved no less.

And then it happened. They had a fierce argument (Josh’s worse
nightmare) and he walked out (Marjorie’s worse nightmare.) The
fight was about the toaster oven.

MORE STORIES

The following couples also broke their marriage vows, failing to
love the other:

1 Mary broke her vows to Tom when she chose to take a vacation
with her sister instead of him. 2 Robert broke his vows when he
told Ingrid one night to grow up, that he was too tired to
listen to her whining. 3 Sonja broke her vows to Mario when she
refused to have sex for a month. 4 Juan broke his vows to Nena
when he told her he’d changed his mind and didn’t want to have
children. 5 Shannon broke her vows to Tony when she lost her
temper one day and told him he was a “jacka**,” an “infant,” and
a “tyrant” when he complained about the Struffoli. 6 Sun Yin
broke his vows to Mai Li when he acted like her father,
demeaning her and telling her she didn’t have what it took to
pursue a career.

100% OF COUPLES ARE UNFAITHFUL

Every couple starts out with the best of intentions, and great
expectations. We plan to love one another and meet one another’s
needs, anticipate them even. We will deliver the love they’ve
never had, making up for past hurts, listening, being patient
and kind, setting records in the bedroom, making our home a
bower of bliss, and never, never, never hurting one another.

And yet we all fail. Sexual infidelity may be the least of it,
devastating as it is, if only 10% divorce because of it. Did I
read that statistic wrong? Statistics in this area are tricky,
yet I suspect this one is close. We know that very few cheaters
marry the object of the cheating, even if they divorce (or are
divorced). We know intuitively it’s not what it appears to be
about; sex never is. And for some couples, extra-marital sex is
tacitly condoned.

HOW DO YOU HEAL?

Therapists believe a couple can survive infidelity. Couples in
fact survive all sorts of infidelity.

One day, for every couple, the honeymoon is over and it becomes
clear to both parties that the promises during the courtship are
not going to be met. Bill will not be delivering the moon, as
advertised, and Amanda has committed the unforgiveable sin of
putting on 15 lbs. The romance of the century has turned into a
negotiated cease fire.

THE ROAD BACK

The minister in the story kept his word. He set about winning
his wife’s faith back. “It took a couple of years,” he said,
“before she believed I really would come home every night at 6
p.m.”

For this couple the issue-of-the-moment was eventually
addressed. I suspect they went on to others issues. They also
took a look at their idealized yearnings, and the nature of
human frailties.

Tom got over that Mary temporarily chose her sister over him.

Sonja and Mario had a talk, and he agreed to try something
besides”We’re gonna do it tonight” over the dinner table.

Robert apologized to Ingrid from the bottom of his heart and
gave her a gift card saying “3 hours of my undivided attention,
your call when.”

Mai Li won her battle to get a job outside the home, and Sun Yin
admits he’s secretly proud of her.

Tony and Shannon decided to get coaching because they both had
bad tempers and needed to work on their EQ. Meanwhile they
reassure one another - Tony, that he won’t walk out again, and
Shannon that she’ll hold her tongue. “I half believe him now,”
says Shannon, a year later.

Juan and Nena continued in agony, as theirs is an issue for
which there can be no compromise, and the end of that story
isn’t written yet. Neither has been able to put “the other” in
front of their need to have, or have not, children. Not all
stories have a happy ending, and not all marriages can be saved.

TRUST

We all have our sensitive areas and when they’re trodden upon,
as only someone intimate with us can, we no longer feel safe,
which is the definition of love. How do we win the other back,
allowing them to feel safe again? Marjorie and Tony were
traumatized by the encounter, having brought about exactly what
each feared the most. Sometimes I think we do this in order for
there to be healing. In the best-case scenario, it gets worked
through.

Oh! I left out a story about sexual infidelity. Here’s a true
one, details changed. David’s wife got cancer. David had a
demanding job and they had two toddlers and a lot of debts.
David hooked up with his high-school sweetheart, Sondra, newly
divorced. They had sex once. The rest of the time he went over
there, they just held each other in bed, and sometimes David
cried.

How did it end? David’s wife, for whom he had been a rock, never
found out, and is now 5 years in remission. Sondra has
remarried. She and David talk occasionally.

Things are not always as they seem.

LEARNING TO LOVE

It was Paul Pearsall who advised “Don’t get married because
you’re in love, get married when you’re ready to learn to love.”

There will be ample opportunity! Our intimate relationships are
where we practice.

A new adult toy site asked over one hundred UK shoppers in November what their best adult toy was along with other personal questions. It was discovered that the most best adult toy for UK shoppers was the vibrator, and they just liked it! UK shoppers were so excited by the idea of a extra large vibrator that many of them would use it straight after coming home from work. The best types of vibrator were the Jessica rabbit vibrators as they help to stimulate the clitoris hood as well as inserting into the vagina. The other find the new sex toy site found out was that the sex toy users just loved using their adult toy on a daily basis by themselves. If the UK women were in a good relationship they would use it with their loving men. The other most popular adult toy was the exciting dildo. Dildos are similar to vibrators except they don’t have batteries or vibrate. Dildos come in all shapes and sizes from 5 inches to twelve inches. They can come with sucker cups to have a brill experience hands free and can easily attach to a bath or toilet set. Dildos have been a firm best seller since the 90’s and looks like they will be around for a long time. If you enjoy sexy toysyou should try it with your favourite Realistic Vibrators A new adult toy site found the best way to pleasure a women is to purchase them both a vibrator and a dildo.